college stress

Its the 3rd day of my senior year and i'am already beyond stressed out about what I have to do to get ready for college not to mention all the things I have to do to get in college. I am completely clueless about everything involving college. I have no idea how to find the schools that I even want to apply to. I live in the northshore where everyyyone goes to college and they know everyyything about how to get in and all the steps they need to take to get there. Most of them have their parents helping them apply to colleges, taking them on college tours, applying to colleges. Me? No. i do not have parents like that. My dad went in the military right out of college and my mom never went either. My parents are just as clueless about the college process as I am. I know this is the year I have to step up and take control of my grades and set out to look at colleges and be a responsible young adult, but what some adults now dont realize is that I just turned 17 a week ago. I also dont have as many of the resources to help me, such as parents. How can kids my age be expected to know what it is we want to do for the rest of our lives? iv been 17 a week and i have to aply to the college that basically will determine the type of life I am going to have, in a matter of a month. Wednesday was my first day of school this year and the seniors had to stay after school for a college meeting. One of the teachers were giving a presentation of different colleges, how to send a transcript, scholarships, college cost. The whole time i'm sitting there i'm like "what???". I cant be expected to wake up out of bed one morning at 17 years old and automatically know the college I wan't to go to, my major, the cost of the school, how to send a transcript, write an essay, and apply. How do I even find colleges to apply to? Dont get me wrong, I know for a fact that i want to go to a great four year college. I know I wan't to go to a school with a small campus but a lot of students, and I wan't everything to be with in walking distance. I also want to join a sorority. I don't how ever know what I wan't to major in. I LOVE kids. I worked at an elemtary school in the after school program and I absolutely loved it. But I know that I don't want to be a teacher. I can handle kids for 3hrs a day but to be teaching them for 6hours a day, I would go crazyyy. I'am also really girly and love to color my hair, cut it in different ways and play around with it. I would love to do hair for a living. my problem is that the chances of me making it big or owning a hair salon is very slim. i need to find something that I love that can make me successful and I dont know what that is yet. Also don't even get me started about how I'am going to pay for college. Most of the college cost I will have to pay myself.I have a job right now but there is no chance in hell i'll come even close to being able to pay. my dad is also making this hard on me. He wont even let me look into a college if it's one that he doesnt want me to go to. He also wont let me now when he will be available to take me on college tours and it's not like my dad will let me drive acouple hours away and visit a college by myself. Besides the normal teenage stress like boys, grades, friends, looking my best, exc. I have so much college stuff to worry about too. I need help.